Don’t look for the right person; become the right person.

Being single during the holidays can be difficult. You want nothing more than to share these special times with someone, and as you look around at other happy couples, the feeling of loneliness intensifies. You start to wish for someone, anyone, to fill the void that is suddenly present in your life.

But is getting involved in a new relationship really the wisest thing to do right now?

Instead of looking for someone, I challenge you to use this time to become the best version of yourself, a whole and healthy individual. Remember, you cannot have a healthy relationship with another person until you are healthy.

Emotionally:
Emotions tell you a lot about the state of your heart. There are a number of emotions that can lead to baggage in other relationships if they are not properly dealt with. This includes anger, bitterness, fear, and possibly regret. Take some time to examine your heart. If you are honest with yourself, you may realize you have more buried emotions than you thought. 

Spiritually:
Like any relationship, our relationship with God takes time and work. In order to have a healthy relationship with God, we must respect him, trust in his will, and communicate with him regularly. Are you taking the necessary time with God to allow him to work within you? Are you known as a man or woman of character?

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Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here! (2 Corinthians 5:17)

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Resources:
Taking Responsibility for Your Life  by Andy Stanley
It Came From Within  by Andy Stanley
Ask It  by Andy Stanley